Sunday, February 11, 2007
Motivational Keynote Speaker Carole Spiers says “Don’t count your Valentines. They don’t count that much.”
In the world of empowerment and self-development, the Valentine Card should have no place - a dubious ritual that just leaves a lot of girls feeling lonely and left out.
So what do we do? Ban it from the office - as we’ve banned the girlie-calendar and the wolf-whistle?
No. That would make us (empowerment advocates) look humourless, about a topic that should largely be treated with humour.
Valentines are basically a bit of fun
It is doubtful if they alter anyone’s lives. After all, if that card is unsigned, you’re meant to know who it’s from, and nearly always it’s from your steady boyfriend anyway. Like a little good-morning kiss - an impulse gesture, not a profound piece of communication.
Of course, a girl does feel a flutter of interest when she’s just received a mystery card, provided it’s not from some sinister stalker. It injects a little twist of magic into that one particular day, when she briefly lets herself dream about who the sender might be, before returning to the real world again. But it’s still only a game.
It is when people take it all too seriously that the trouble starts
Like when a married couple feel they ought to keep up a formal exchange of cards, like a ‘marital duty’ - that joyless phrase.
Then there’s that sense of competition you sometimes notice, especially with multiple cards. “I got more Valentines than you!” Or the temptress who wants to boast that she’s broken the office record this year. Or the girl who needs the reassurance that she’s received more cards than she’s sent out.
These are seldom the ones with the most satisfying love-lives. Yet that is just the kind of thing that sets up jealousy and envy in the less-confident girl, adding to all her insecurities, most of which turn out to be groundless in due course.
Valentines? More or less harmless. And they keep a few printers in work. But remember, there
are 364 other days in the year when loving impulses can be expressed too. Perhaps with more sincerity.
It Doesn’t Need A Valentine Card To Put You On Top Of The World…
You can get yourself a first-class ticket through life - by attending to your own personal empowerment and self-development agenda. Click here http://www.carolespiers.com/productdetail.cfm?ProductID=34
for details of my book ‘Turn your passion into profit’ - new this week, latest from Carolespiers.com, the website to watch – www.carolespiers.com
Carole Spiers – inspirational motivational speaker occupies a special niche as an expert in Personal Development. She brings together the separate cultures of individual empowerment and executive management - proving to corporate business that empowered employees improve performance and output. Carole’s keynote presentations have educated and inspired audiences all over the world. She is also a high profile broadcaster, journalist and President of the London Chapter of the Professional Speakers Association.
Our publications and sales CDs have been sold globally. To sign up for our FREE success quotations http://tinyurl.co.uk/yhgv, or for more information email info@carolespiers.com to telephone +44 (0) 29 8954 1593 www.carolespiers.com
So what do we do? Ban it from the office - as we’ve banned the girlie-calendar and the wolf-whistle?
No. That would make us (empowerment advocates) look humourless, about a topic that should largely be treated with humour.
Valentines are basically a bit of fun
It is doubtful if they alter anyone’s lives. After all, if that card is unsigned, you’re meant to know who it’s from, and nearly always it’s from your steady boyfriend anyway. Like a little good-morning kiss - an impulse gesture, not a profound piece of communication.
Of course, a girl does feel a flutter of interest when she’s just received a mystery card, provided it’s not from some sinister stalker. It injects a little twist of magic into that one particular day, when she briefly lets herself dream about who the sender might be, before returning to the real world again. But it’s still only a game.
It is when people take it all too seriously that the trouble starts
Like when a married couple feel they ought to keep up a formal exchange of cards, like a ‘marital duty’ - that joyless phrase.
Then there’s that sense of competition you sometimes notice, especially with multiple cards. “I got more Valentines than you!” Or the temptress who wants to boast that she’s broken the office record this year. Or the girl who needs the reassurance that she’s received more cards than she’s sent out.
These are seldom the ones with the most satisfying love-lives. Yet that is just the kind of thing that sets up jealousy and envy in the less-confident girl, adding to all her insecurities, most of which turn out to be groundless in due course.
Valentines? More or less harmless. And they keep a few printers in work. But remember, there
are 364 other days in the year when loving impulses can be expressed too. Perhaps with more sincerity.
It Doesn’t Need A Valentine Card To Put You On Top Of The World…
You can get yourself a first-class ticket through life - by attending to your own personal empowerment and self-development agenda. Click here http://www.carolespiers.com/productdetail.cfm?ProductID=34
for details of my book ‘Turn your passion into profit’ - new this week, latest from Carolespiers.com, the website to watch – www.carolespiers.com
Carole Spiers – inspirational motivational speaker occupies a special niche as an expert in Personal Development. She brings together the separate cultures of individual empowerment and executive management - proving to corporate business that empowered employees improve performance and output. Carole’s keynote presentations have educated and inspired audiences all over the world. She is also a high profile broadcaster, journalist and President of the London Chapter of the Professional Speakers Association.
Our publications and sales CDs have been sold globally. To sign up for our FREE success quotations http://tinyurl.co.uk/yhgv, or for more information email info@carolespiers.com to telephone +44 (0) 29 8954 1593 www.carolespiers.com
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